"The knack" has many facets, as many as there are variations on the theme of influencing people, of bending them, of enlisting them in your cause, of "converting" them, of recruiting them into a cult, of molding them into a mass movement, of bypassing reason and acting directly on the smoldering fires of naked emotion. Prophets and founders of religions have "the knack", as do successful politicians... and insurance salesmen. Attracting women is but one manifestation of this power, and a somewhat trivial one at that. In other times and places, this peculiar talent been named "charisma", animal magnetism, charm, or just plain personal force. It exists, and it has exerted a profound and ofttimes disruptive influence throughout history.
What is the source of this strange gift, and why is it so rare? The conventional materialistic world view fails to acknowledge its existence, much less explore its nature. The mystical explanation remains the only attempt to grapple with this phenomenon, this wild card in the affairs of our fellow humans.
Somewhere, beyond the reach of our senses, there exists a vast reservoir of raw energy, of force, of potential, of might be that can be tapped by anyone. Here, in the realm of the human spirit, it is faith, belief in the impossible, refusal to give up, indomitable fortitude that define the shadowy landmarks of this unknown continent. It is universally accessible... to those who find the hidden doorway. The key is a process of insight and revelation that is all too often the result of suffering, privation, intense pain on a very personal level. Conditions of extreme stress can suspend even the laws of nature and open the channel to experiences that transform our perception of the world, let us see the unseen, and grasp the very forces that bind the Web of Life.
The universe, they said, depended for its operation on the balance of
four forces which they identified as charm, persuasion, uncertainty and
Of late, it seems that every mercenary psychologist, spiritual advisor,
and comfort peddler hopes to make a fast buck conducting seminars or
writing best-sellers allegedly teaching "the knack". What is purveyed
is a prettified mass-market version of low-grade "mind control" and
brainwashing techniques. This is nothing very mysterious or esoteric,
it is just simple communications skills intensified, with a twist toward
manipulating people. Get the subject's attention, press her "hot
buttons", subtly torque her emotions, subvert her perceptions, work her
weaknesses. This effective, if somewhat crude methodology has been
around for millennia. What was once known as proselytizing and plain
salesmanship has been repackaged into "speed seduction", various
high-pressure seminar-based training regimens, and an assortment of
other programs for behavioral control.
If you like women, enjoy their company, and know how to express it in a tactful, understated manner, they will respond. Listen to the women in your life, be sympathetic, give them emotional support, and you will be amply repaid. You will develop a talent for attracting the women who need what you have to offer - your own unique self, encompassing all of you, your strengths as well as your weaknesses, your luminous humanity as well as your warts. This is your "knack".